Hello All, this is the other half that Yanic mentions from time to time on her blog. As you all know if you have read the post here, Yanic is suffering more than just a bit right now. I have been helping by helping where I can : cleaning here, cooking there, making her sit down and asking her to not feel bad about it, sometimes with a grumble and grump as she walks away, but none the less doing it eventually. Since she started the blog, she had mentioned that maybe I could post something at some point, a DIY or something similar. Which I will do one day 😉 but for today, I figured I would share a bit of an interesting story that got me to thinking about how our family is growing.
So a simple break down of the story is that I was chatting with a co-worker (literally “chatting” as she is in Romania and our paths cross in our chat program at work) and we often ask about one another’s plans for the weekend. Well this weekend is a special one for us, since we are taking some time for mama and papa, with the grace of my wonderful in-laws, and having a little date night. We are heading to a spa for a few hours and will probably stop after to grab a dessert and maybe tea somewhere. Well when I shared this piece of information with my co-worker, she had asked a question I wasn’t expecting : She was curious to know if in the course of our relationship, I could say that I liked our time together as a couple more as none parents than as parents.
As my brain churned through all the wonderful memories that Yanic and I have built over the years that we have been together, up to and including the birth of our beautiful children, I realized that it was impossible to say that I prefer one to the other. My answer honestly was that through the time of finding one another, going through the cliché honey moon period and getting and passing the classic 7 year itch in our marriage still scratching only one another’s back (me a bit more due to the ever-present itch that your lady garments provide), I realized that just like our environment, our children, our friends and family are ever-changing, so too is our relationship with the one we love. There will always be hills and valleys in any relationship, but it is my belief that it is how the couple adapts to those situations and one another that build that relationship. I have found that in the time of the children arriving, it is very true that we have less just “us” time. Most of our date nights and wedding anniversaries recently have included getting some massive grocery shopping done or completing some arduous task that we knew the kids would not be patient through. But that doesn’t make me any less happy with my partner. If anything our kids complete what was missing for us, they are some of our greatest teachers and believe me, ask Yanic, they teach dad a thing or two every day, usually relating to relaxing or smiling or appreciating the smaller things… and my honey throws in on these lessons as well to make sure they sink in. Often times what we experienced during the day with the kiddos leaves Yanic and I reflecting at night, knowing we made the right choices in life. Loving where our adventure has taken us so far, and waiting patiently (sometimes impatiently … the kids get it from somewhere you know and it is not the neighbor) for where this adventure called life is going to take us.
So sorry for the long-winded post, but with my love and her arm needing rest, I was hoping to hold this blogosphere of hers, as well as hoping that she relaxes her arm for another day. Not the easiest thing to do with the active little man we have. So with this post, I’m just hoping to inspire all of you out there that are now a family to not forget the foundation. Sometimes it is important for those parent times, even if they are few and far between. As well, hopefully this will conjure up some memories to share with the kiddos as they are growing. Making them feel how much they help to complete this relationship that we thought couldn’t get more perfect.