To my daughter
When we decided to keep you home in April, it was for so many reasons. Me wanting to enjoy these last few months before school with you, us hoping that having you home would help your little brother come out of his shell and that you would inspire him to try a few new things. You are such an imaginative and creative soul, how could someone NOT be better around you?
But honestly, I was secretly hoping that it would finally make you and your brother siblings.
From the very beginning, there has been no doubt in my mind of how much you adore your little brother. But as the months went by, we knew you were feeling the strain of your “different” relationship. Our Little Man has been a tough nut to crack and for a long time, you were waiting on the sidelines for him to open up to you. I’m happy to say our gamble paid off.
What fun you two have together. When he wakes up in the morning, he searches for you. When we put him to bed at night, he will fight sleep until you are in bed as well. Although he can’t say your name or the words “I love you”, he holds your hand when you are sitting next to him in the car and blows you kisses when he walks away. You know exactly what to do to make him giggle, what to do to make him chase you around. You finally have YOUR little brother.
But luck had nothing to do with it my love, it was all you : Your patience, your flexibility, your acceptance, your unconditional love. You have been 100 times more compassionate than most adults we have encountered. You are the best big sister a little man could ever have. You are his protector, his biggest fan, you notice every little thing and celebrate them in the most elaborate ways. You’ve adapted everything you are and everything you do for him to feel included. You’ve let go all your preconceived notions and have embraced every molecule of him. Thanks to you, his life is filled with joy and understanding. You truly love him for who he is, you’ve never tried to change him.
You are so brave and so strong. So wise beyond your years. You will teach so much to so many. Ignorance has a valiant new enemy. We are so blessed to have you on our winning team.